Husband. Dad to 5. Student Ministry Pastor. Follower of Jesus. Yatta yatta.

AN UNAMERICAN PRAYER

While preparing for a message on foolishness/wisdom for our middle school program today, I ran across this prayer from Proverbs:

“Remove far from me falsehood and lying; give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with the food that is needful for me, lest I be full and deny you and say, a“Who is the LORD?”or lest I be poor and steal band profane the name of my God.” Proverbs 30:8-9

I thought how unAmerican. I’ve never lived anywhere else… so maybe it’s so “unhuman” but regardless- I think it’s unAmerican to pray for less or that God would give you just what you need and nothing more. It’s also unAmerican to fear the influence of materialism or even poverty on one’s faith as a possible negative.

I’ll never forget watching a group of women in Mexico crying with our girls after a week of ministry with them years ago. I thought they were crying because we were leaving. But, upon further investigation, I discovered the Mexican women were actually crying because they feared for these girls going back to what they perceived as the “land of materialistic distractions”. Maybe we are in greater danger than those in poverty of leaving God.

Last night Shannon and I had some money to spend… 2 VERY RARE THINGS IN OUR WORLD:

  1. A wed night where I had NO commitments so we went out on a date.
  2. We had “money to spend” at Costco and gift cards for a Cheesecake Factor dinner afterwards.

I have a “business” card for Costco which means we pay a little more annually to get in at 10am (an hour early) and because it gives me a “percentage kick back” of what we spend here (mostly for church) as a gift certificate at the end of the year. I had 2 certificates- one of which was going to expire in about 10 days- so we decided to go spend them. They totaled $165. We never get to go through Costco and ask- what do you want to spend it on?

  • I bought a dvd set, socks, coffee beans, and some cereal.
  • Shannon bought a shirt for herself and a CD for the boys, and some Bear Naked trail mix.

We had like 20 bucks left over. But.. in the process… I felt a little weird. I had money to spend however I wanted… and as I browsed the store I discovered that they sell a watch for $19,000!!!!!!!!!!!! Um… I can’t imagine being wealthy enough to spend almost 20G on a watch. (by the way- they don’t make those in America- the world has “richer” taste in some places than we do- Americans didn’t invent Ferrari, Mercedes, or BMW either. Maybe this is a human condition issue.)

Anyway…. I wonder if that’s not the fear of Proverbs 30 lived out. I dunno. But it makes me scratch my head and wonder what this world is all about.

LASTEST FAMILY PHOTO OP

For mother’s day this last year, my mother’s day gift to my bride was a family photo op. We decided it was time for the beach scene. We did some in balboa park a couple of years ago- so we decided we needed sand and waves.


This is the one we chose from the set. I like to call it the “pretending to be the perfect family”…. cuz we don’t look or act this happy and loving all the time… but it’s a good target to aim for I guess. It took forever to get a digital copy from my photographer- copyright concerns and such… but after I needed a copy for my teaching this last weekend, he hooked me up.

MY READING SON

TJ turned 10 (the end of last month) and with it, his grandma bought him all 7 hardback copies of the Harry Potter series. Tonight, he came down to kiss me goodnight and told me he finished book 1- almost 1 week to the day since he got home from our camping trip and started reading it.

I better get crackin’…. my kid is kickin’ my reading butt big time.

ACT IN 3 DAYS OR LESS

I spent most of today reflecting on learnings from the past few years and planning for the future- both personally and professionally. I still feel like I could use another day or two to finalize some things and I know I’ll have to revisit these decisions every week to keep them going… but I at least got the ball rolling I believe.

One of the things I did was go over some notes from previous leadership summits. In so doing, I ran across this quote from Jack Groppel at the ’05 summit.

“If you experience something that moves or motivates or challenges you… you have 3 days to put some action to it, or you’ll likely have done nothing at all a year later.”

Um… so I have good news and bad news:

GOOD NEWS: I started to do something with this years teaching and I’m putting action to it within the 3 day window.

BAD NEWS: It took me 2 years of doing virtually nothing with a lot of stuff to figure out Jack was right. I suck!

LEADERSHIP SUMMIT LEARNINGS

For about the 6th or 7th time now, I’ve had the privilege of attending the Leadership Summit from Willow Creek. I’ve never been to it live, I always watch it a few hours later on some kind of time delay satellite feed at some church somewhere. Once in San Jose, several times in Walnut Creek, and now 3 times here at Journey where we host it.

Each time I go, I try and summarize my learnings from each of the presenters or “faculty members” as they call them, in a sentence. This year, I’m also taking Tuesday to review and re-think and stew on what I heard. I’m going to turn off my cell, my e-mail, and the world and lock myself in a room to think and pray about what God might have for me. In particular, I’ll be thinking over these one or two sentence learnings:

  • Session #1. Bill Hybels: founding pastor of Willow Creek Community Church

Ownership of a vision is more important than the creation of a vision: As a result, good leaders spend significant time and energy involving others in the vision development process rather than simply declaring it from on high and unilaterally hoping for agreement.

  • Session #2. A live stage interview with Carly Fiorina, former CEO of HP…

“Logic taught me the power of the right question. I have discovered that, knowing the answer is less important than asking the right question.”

  • Session #3. Floyd A. Flake: pastor, former congressman, business man, college president…

(This man was impossible for me to follow. He spoke very fast. Never paused. I couldn’t follow his line of thinking. It was all over the place. Honestly, I learned more about his leadership by watching how he interacted with others in his intro video than I did from his actual words on stage. As I reflected on how this communicator got on such a world class stage, I discovered a truth I’ve seen proven in many an influential leader through the years)


A leader’s public communication skills can be trumped by their interpersonal ones and still result in great success. However, if a leader’s interpersonal skills are poor, no amount of public speaking can overcome them and they are destined to be a mess.

  • Session #4. Marcus Buckingham: world renown author, consultant, and strengths communicator
3 one liners worth stewing on:

Build on your strengths and manage around your weaknesses.

Move the best of your job until it is most of your job.

Good leaders can talk about strengths without boasting, and weaknesses without whining.

  • Session #5. Michael E. Porter: Harvard Business School Prof and a well recongized authority on strategic planning.

When working with a social need (poverty, aids, education, homelessness, etc), don’t see yourself as someone providing a service, instead see yourself as someone trying to add value to another’s life. This will force us to evaluate our results based on it’s influence and aid on the recipient of the service, not on the execution of the service itself.

  • Session #6. Colin Powell: leadership genius… man I wish I could have coffee with once a month…. really bad.

Only people get things done. Mission statements don’t. Policies don’t. Only people do. So, take 1/3 of a given time period as a leader to devise a plan. Then spend 2/3 of the time allowing those who you expect to help do the task to interact with the plan so they can be own and discover a plan for their role in it.

  • Session #7. John Ortberg: Author, master of words, senior pastor of Menlo Park Community Church in CA.
A leader’s greatest fear should be the pursuit of a “Shadow Mission.” The distraction of the devil to devote their time and resources to that which is second best or even flat out evil. Consequently, every good leader must name their “shadow mission” and take specific and regular steps to keep it from consuming their life by it’s natural pull it has on them.


  • Session #8. Richard Curtis: British Comedy Writer, Philanthropist dedicated to seeing poverty literally become a thing of history
As a youth pastor, looking over the sea of students who have come through our doors and either in high school, or in the years to follow, eventually walked away from Jesus, I identified with this statement more than I wished I did. I too feel like my energy is going to waste more times than not…

“The most depressing thing for me as a comedy film writer is a movie rental store. They are all over the place and filled with thousands of dead films. I don’t want to produce just another one of those.”


  • Session #9. Jimmy Carter: Humble man of God, 39th President of the United States, Sunday School teacher of small 35 person church in Plains, Ga. where he and his family have owned land since 1835.

Accommodate changing times while clinging to unchanging principles . Those were and are the passions of Jesus Christ.

  • Session #10. Bill Hybels

Staying motivated or inspired in my job is my job, and no one elses.


Hybels mentioned 10 ways he stays motivated. 3 I held on to as critical for me these days:

  1. Spend time with and around friends who truly inspire me to live and lead well.
  2. Spend time paying attention to my own spiritual and physical needs of rest, excercise, eating, reading, and prayer.
  3. Spend time escaping in a non-work related hobby that re-fuels my spirit.