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Archives for January 2013

1 CORINTHIANS 16:13-14

In my Bible reading this January I have run across several verses that for what it’s worth, I’ve skipped or glossed over or I dunno how I largely missed them… but nonetheless they have stopped me dead in my tracks.  But anyway, here they are in the English Standard Version.

1 Corinthians 16:13–14
“(13) Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.  (14) Let all that you do be done in love.”

Seriously, does it get any more clear than that?  I’m still blown away that verse 14 hasn’t become the logo of some t-shirt company.   1C1614 should be the logo.  The NIV simply puts it “Do everything in Love”.  Bam.

I spent the majority of last week wrestling with life and faith and ministry with 3 other pastors/long time friends at a house in Coronado.  It’s an annual piece of my life to try and stay sane.  Anyway, here’s 5 questions we kicked around that might be worth pondering today:

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING OUT FOR?

I think this question can be seen in two ways.  First, what danger lurks around the corner?  What is it that you need to be aware of that can rob your life of joy and peace and hope?  The scriptures speak of a thief that comes to kill and destroy the things of God in us. BE WATCHFUL.

The second way is more positive.  Like where have you noticed the work of God around you?  Kinda like how I noticed this verse.  What has recently stood out to you about God or faith that you previously didn’t notice as clearly?

WHERE DO YOU NEED TO STAND YOUR GROUND? 

This question gets to the important stuff.  For me it is essentially, “what hill are you willing to die on these days?”  Where will your faith stand firm?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO “ACT LIKE MEN?”

I looked it up in the greek and it’s just a one word command.   It has a root that is the same root we find in words like “anthropology”, so it has a flesh and blood feel to it.  It can be translated be brave, be courageous, or act like a man.  All the translations that are more intentionally gender neutral choose “be courageous” since Paul was writing to both men and women in this letter.  But regardless of it’s entomology…. the question is still, “Are you doing it?”  Are you taking responsibility for you life and faith and family and in what areas do you need to be courageous or “man up”?

WHERE DO NEED TO BE STRONG?

In what area of your life do you have to exert the most energy to stand your ground?  What leadership piece of life is requiring the most strength from you?

ARE YOU DOING ALL OF THE ABOVE WITH LOVE?  IF NOT, WHY NOT?  

TEACHING WITH VISUALS

I confess, I have become a bit of a prop guy when teaching or preaching.  In fact, if you count pictures on a projector as a prop, I’d say there’s close to a 95% chance that there will be a prop somewhere in my teaching.  If you fly me in to teach, I’ll probably bring my own props as well as ask you to pick some up whatever I could not carry or was too bulky to bring.

Last weekend I gave five different talks at a middle school winter camp over a span of 3 1/2 days and had a prop of some kind in each talk.  In fact, on the 5th and final talk, I decided to ditch my planned “new message” and simply do a response to the previous four messages.  Since I had used so many visuals and teaching props in my previous messages, all I had to do was hold up the prop and ask, “What was this all about?”   This lead to a remarkable response where all over the room of over 500 middle school students, hands were shooting up to tell me what the answer was.  They could literally tell me almost word-for-word my stories, illustrations, scripture that I used, and even the “so what” point.  I really think without the visuals, this would have been all but impossible.   
Simply put, using props and visuals always helps make the illustration or story I’m telling more memorable.  It really helps those who are visual learners and rarely hinders those who aren’t.  It is a no-brainer win if you ask me.  
As an example, one illustration I used this past weekend was one with chocolate milk that I learned in college.  It’s so easy to use and so powerful.  Here’s how it works:
  1. Take a regular milk and pour it into a clear glass.  Tell them this is their life.  (If your crowd is big, feel free to use a vase or other large cylinder that can be seen from farther away) 
  2. Then take hershey’s chocolate syrup and pour it in.   Tell them the syrup represents Jesus.  (You can have fun with Jesus being brown skinned or sweet tasting or just full of goodness if you want)  But the point I make is this:  a lot of people claim to have Jesus in their life… and they might not even be wrong.  
  3. Then point out the pile of chocolate syrup in the bottom and draw the analogy that the problem isn’t that they have no Jesus in them, it’s that you have to look in the right place to see or taste Him.  
  4. I show them that if I cover up the chocolate syrup pile that forms in the bottom of the glass, then no one can tell if there’s chocolate in it or not.  The same is true of a lot of “christians”.   They don’t look or taste like they have Jesus in them in about 95% of the environments they’re in.   
  5. So I then tell them that if we want to have God in every piece of our lives, then we each have to stir up some stuff and at which point I use a spoon to stir up the chocolate.  

This is a perfect illustration of the filling of the Holy Spirit and never ceases to prove powerful every time I use it.  But without the visuals, it’s so less impactful.  I could explain it, but seeing it live is 100x better.  It just is.  

So… if you want to up your influence in your communication, and especially if you work with teens,… let me encourage you to start using props.  To that end, here’s a series of questions that might be worth processing as you prepare for your next teaching:
1. Is there a way that I can enhance this story with a visual?  For example, if I’m going to tell a basketball illustration, would it be good to have a basketball in my hand?   
2. If I don’t have a physical object to represent or use, can I get a picture instead?  
3. Can I use a brief video to make the point?  
4. Can I give one object in my lesson to everyone?  Can a visual move my audience from observing to doing something?  If so, what should I tell them to do with it or how can we use it in this talk?  
5. Can I use one visual in various ways throughout my talk instead of just one time for one point?  
6. Can I use a drawing board, white board, or flip chart to enhance this talk? 
7. Is my visual a distraction or a help?  Should this visual be used to spark curiosity throughout my talk or should I reveal it from behind a curtain or box later in the message? 

AVERAGE IS THE ENEMY OF AWESOME

While preparing for a weekend of talk’s to junior high students this past weekend at Forest Home, I found myself wrestling with two truths I was trying to teach.

The theme set by the camp was “everything”.  Not like, teach whatever I wanted everything.  They were basing this on the “shema” in Deuteronomy 6 that Jesus quotes in response to the question, “What is the greatest commandment.”  

“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’”  

In other words, God wants our everything.   As I read this over and over again for like the five thousandth time, I was reminded of two truths I needed to live out and communicate.  

“EVERYTHING CAN’T BE EVERYTHING.”

First, if I give my all to something, then I can’t give my all to anything else.  I think in a multi-tasking society, where we believe we can do 50 things at once, this is a profound reminder.  I can give parts of me to lots of stuff, but if I want to give my all to God, then I can’t do that and give my all to anything else.  Only one thing can be my everything.

When I let the opinions of people, the acquiring of stuff, and the achievement pile become my top priority for a season, then it by default moves God out of first place.  I can’t do that and say yes to this call in the Greatest commandment.

“AVERAGE IS THE ENEMY OF AWESOME.”

Secondly, I found myself wrestling with why it is that I find myself settling for less than “all of God in all of me in all areas of my life.”  To that end, this observation proved profound for me spiritually this weekend as I taught it and personally processed it.

When I accept an average amount of God in my life, I miss out on the awesome that God has in store.  In a world of comparison games, immediately we go to some sort of competition with that phrase.  Like who can you be more awesome than?  But the truth is, this call of God has NOTHING to do with comparison.   Awesome is not defined as “better than”, it is defined as ALL of God in ALL of Me!  That’ is awesome.

It’s deciding that the phrase, “it is what it is”, in this context is flat out a copout.  No my spiritual life is not an “is what it is” reality. Our spiritual connection with God is never all it is or could be. There’s so much more.  And to that end, Satan doesn’t need me to reject God to win, all he needs is for me to accept a moderate amount of God.

Bottom line, when I settle, it’s a victory for the enemy.

So this week, I’m wresting with these two questions as I search my soul:

1. Is my top priority in my schedule this week something God can be and is fully present in?
2. Where have I settled for average when God had a plan for awesome?

AND I MEANT IT

You’ve heard that, “The road to success as not paved by good intentions.”  But that phrase is ironic all by itself because quoting a bumper sticker and doing something to solve the problem are two very different things.  Anybody can have good intentions or even be aware that intentions without actions are merely idle talk.  But choosing to mean what we say… that’s a different story.

So this fall we kicked off a small group series with our students for just 3 weeks to try and put some umph behind our intentions and the momentum of January.   We’re calling it.. “And I Meant It!”

Week 1:  I said I wanted to get close to God… and I meant it.  

Week 2: I said I wanted true friendships… and I meant it.

Week 3: I said I believe in the power of prayer… and I meant it.

Last week was week 1 for us and myself, my co-leader kevin, and 10 squirrely A.D.D infested teen guys got together to talk about what it would be like if we had a “tent of meeting” like Moses did where he met with God.  They all agreed that would be a rad, but at one point I had to call their bluff and say some stuff I can’t put on this blog.  It was time to stop “posing” and acting like we cared about getting close to God just cuz we showed up at small groups.  It’s a start, but it’s not like going to class makes someone a good student.  You have to put actual real effort in.  

So we all agreed to hold each other accountable to read our Bible daily.  We passed around mobile numbers.  We prayed.  We said, “let’s do this thing.”  We’re using the One Minute Bible as our tool.  I like it because it’s bite sized readings each day. It’s not cheesy or filled with lame graphics.  It’s enough to start a conversation and get a habit going without biting off more than a teen guy can handle who didn’t read much anyway.

So I’m stoked for what could happen in these 11 dudes if they truly develop the new beginning of a life with God on their own.

If you wanna join us, you can grab a one minute bible here.

You can download the teaching plan here.

WHY OUR YOUTH MINISTRY SPONSORS KIDS

For the last 8 years as a youth pastor in San Diego, our youth ministry has been sponsoring kids around the world.  To do this, we put piggy banks on the tables and ask students to bring $1 a week to help us change the world, one kid at a time.

  • We started in 2005 with a girl named Luyando in Zambia through World Vision.  
  • Then we added a boy named Hector in Tijuana through a local organization that we work with called His Ministries.  We go visit Hector 2 or 3 times a year and bring his family giant amounts of food to use for the months ahead.
  • Then we started sponsoring an orphanage in Uganda.
  • Then we added Marvin in El Salvador.
  • Then Ruby in India. 
  • Lastly, we added a girl named Keke in Thailand through Compassion International.
All-in-all, to sponsor these kids, it still only totals about $225 a month we need to raise, not counting gifts we send.  Which, around the Christmas season, we send $100 to each kid- which is more than some of their families will make in months.  This special annual money we send is then used for the child we sponsor to get them something, their family, and often the area or community they live in too.  One year we sent money to India and Ruby, along with every other kid in the village got blankets.  She sent us this picture.  So rad.  
This is worth it’s weight in gold to show students how just a few bucks a week can change the world in a tangible way.  It broadens their world and radically changes what it looks like to love Jesus.  
Then this year, just last week in fact, I got a letter from Luyando in Zambia.  Seriously, she lives some 10,000 miles away from us, literally almost half way around the world.  I’ll most likely never meet her, but look at how the $100 we just sent her was spent.
Along with this picture was a letter that read the following:

Special greetings to you and your family.  How are you?  I guess you’re doing fine.  I’m fine back here and my family is fine too.  I was so grateful and still am for the money you sent for me amounting to 100 U.S. dollars.  As a family, we are all happy for your support which will go a long way.  We thank you so much and pray that you have a long life.  With the money my father managed to buy me the clothes that I am wearing, books for school, gumboots, a few groceries, and some iron sheets to roof our house which was grass thatched.  It’s rain season here so the money came at just the right time.  Now we no longer worry about the roof, no matter how it rains.  Happy Christmas and Happy New Year to you.  With love, Luyando.  

Seriously… it doesn’t get any better than that.   I still cry when I realize that a group of high school students pitching in a few bucks a week fixed a roof for a young girl and her family in Africa. Amazing.  Thank God for World Vision!  What an amazing experience.  Thank God a family is not getting wet as I type this because their roof is solid now!
I really can’t encourage you enough. If you lead students, please consider sponsoring a child of some kind together as a team. It will change you and I guarantee it will change a kid’s world somewhere else.