Husband. Dad to 5. Student Ministry Pastor. Follower of Jesus. Yatta yatta.

Archives for March 2008

LABELED

One of the blogs I read is nothing but comic strips about the church. I’m not sure where I heard about it first. It was either from Marko or Josh. It’s from London I think and as a result, sometimes it’s got some inside humor I miss, but for the most part, I read it daily since it takes about 10 seconds and I never comment or read the comments- though I see from time to time that he has quite a few.

Anyway- tonight I noticed this one.

I found it interesting because I just had a conversation with a coworker last week about a difficult discussion I was set to have with some parents regarding addressing homosexuality in our youth ministry on the weekend. In talking about this issue, it seems to be one of the things people like to label themselves or others with. Homosexuality is never an issue. It quickly becomes the issue or the way people define you. It’s almost got a racial status.

On the one side, I guess everyone labels themself something:

  • Christian. Buddhist. Soccer player. Baseball Fan. Pianist. Drummer. Artist. Architect.. whatever.
But some labels come with more baggage or highly opinionated responses by those around you when you say it is what you are:
  • Politician. Lawyer. Pastor. Cop. Evangelist. Abortion doctor. CEO of Walmart. etc….
But it is also true, that virtually no one labels themselves by what they struggle with, and it’s often unsafe to share that issue in many church environments. So, you find someone very upset when you address one issue, but very much ignorant of their own mislabeled self. If we were all true to our labels, they might read something like the “comic” above or like this:

  • Adulterer. Liar. Struggling Alcoholic. Luster after all things electronic and new. Obese due to lack of self control. Stress case. Worry Wart. Unfaithful with my eyes. Porn addict. Anger management nightmare. Insecure. Financially irresponsible. Bitter. Struggling sex addict.
So, especially in the context of the church, it seems odd to me that we would, even when taking the position that homosexuality (male or female) is not part of God’s design for sexuality, choose to label people by the thing they struggle to give over to Christ. And if we’re going to do that with one group, guess you might as well start passing out the markers and label everyone that way. Seems like about the dummest thing the church could ever become is a place where people are defined by their past or their sins or whatever- especially when we are supposed to be defined by the identity and redemption we have in Jesus.

I pray that our youth ministry and the church I serve in never becomes a place where people are defined by their past or their struggles and temptations. At the same time, I pray that it is a place where people can be open and honest about those same things that they still wrestle with and find comrades and partners in the process of becoming like Jesus instead of condemning and judgmental fingers.

15 MINUTES OR LESS

Last week, my wife and I and my parents were all set to go out to dinner and to see Dancing in the Dark at the Old Globe theatre. We had tickets for a 7pm show and a baby sitter coming at 4:30 pm. But by around 2pm, we still needed dinner reservations.


So I heard that the melting pot is tons of fun. I called and landed a 5:15 reservation. Score!!!

I discovered it is a blast to go to the melting pot. Very cool and so worth the flow- even though it’s a little pricey. Cooking your food at the table in vegetable broth and the appetizers and stuff was very worth repeating.

However, it is not something you can do in an hour and a half. It is basically an event in itself and should be given like 2 1/2 hours for the 4 course meal . So needless to say, at 6:35pm, realizing we were not going to finish our food (or even dream about the chocolate fondue desert- bummer), we dumped the remaining meat in the pot to cook, I bolted to go get the valet to get our car. Our tickets had a note on them that said they do not allow any late arrivals. So, since we could not afford to lose our tickets- which cost more than the meal- we then sprinted for the theater in our “zippy car”. Mapquest says it’s an 18 minute drive, I made it in 14. I think I may have left Jesus somewhere in the process.


I dropped my family off at the front door and went in search of a parking space- which at Balboa park is like a half mile away. I then began a sprint for the door and walked in just as the attendant was literally closing it. I felt like I was walking onto an airplane as the door was closing. So crazy. So fun. Too fast. Next fancy date I’m taking a whole day and I say the show should start at 8pm.

SOLD

I sold the bed and the christmas dishes from my previous post today. 1 via craigslist. 1 via my blog. Cool. $150 to Uganda. $everal thousands more to go. Woo hoo. The pennies are adding up.

Now I just need to sell the camera and the pda.

FOR SALE

Well, if you’re in the market for a PDA or an antique twin size bedroom set or you just dig a good garage sale and you want to help my family get to Uganda to serve in an orphanage this summer, well then I could use the help.

Here’s 4 links to the berrytribe’s latest craigslist adventures:

WHY I SHOULD READ EMERGENTS BLOG MORE

Because of things like this map they linked to, which is AWESOME!!!!